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I’ve been pondering my attachment to the past a lot recently.  The last of my belongings from my former home were delivered last week.  It was a long time coming and I opened each box with anticipation, looking for certain items that I was sure would be there.  Alas, two treasured books were missing … and I mourn them.

Through the twists and turns my life has taken since 2006, I’ve experienced a lot of loss.  One would think that it would get easier to shrug it off but the memory of these things, and the loss of them now realized, sort of makes me sad.

We have a new author on our site.  Her name is Dragon Heart.

She and I met in another circle.  When she saw The Legendary Narcissist site, she wanted to be a part of it so she could contribute her knowledge about Narcissists and work with me to make this site a better resource for you.

The topic of narcissism ranges well beyond the experiences that I’m able to share with you.  I can talk with you about narcissistic partners and narcissistic employers, but I can’t tell you what it was like or what I learned from having a parent who was a narcissist.  Dragon Heart has had this experience, as well as others, and I’m grateful that she wants to help me help you.  🙂

Music is one of the things that we all enjoy.  Yesterday, a friend of mine sent along a link to this great old blues song by Annie Ross.  It seemed appropriate to share with my readers.  Enjoy!


Another year has passed, according to the anniversary of my birth.  As I assess my life’s condition, I can’t help measuring what is as it relates to what was.

“The past is our definition. we may strive, with good reason, to escape it, or to escape what is bad in it, but we will escape it only by adding something better to it.” ~ Wendell Berry

What is better?  The last time that I declared to myself that my life would be better by allowing time for a relationship, my desired reality seemed to manifest.  When I met my former beau,  I thought my dreams had come true.  But they hadn’t.  The reflection of love in that fun house mirror was distorted and ugly at the end.  And the transition from joyful serenity to anxious un-joy was so … abrupt.

Narcissism is an epidemic in our culture today.  You witness it when you experience the driver who executes a lane change at high speed that is a near miss which leaves your heart racing.  There are less threatening examples that we witness everyday and, because we have become anesthetized to the unconsciousness behavior of people who walk among us daily, we tend to shrug out shoulders and move on with our business.

For those of us who have experienced a Narcisstic encounter up close and personal, we begin to notice the little things.  I believe that I’ve written a post in the past about “flags” that are set upon certain behaviors like not answering direct questions directly or failing to acknowledge that a question has been asked.  Although I can use my Narcissistic Radar detector to back away from personal relationships pretty adeptly, it is more difficult to step away from Narcissists in a business situation.

My dear friend, McKenna, has agreed to become a guest blogger and co-administrator at The Legendary Narcissist.  I’m truly excited about this!  She helped me navigate through the devastating experience of dealing with a narcissistic relationship and, although she never told me what to do, she guided me to the right decisions. 

McKenna is an accomplished Astrologer with 20 years of experience.  She is also an accomplished writer and an understanding friend whose wisdom I know all of you will come to appreciate.

In the past, The Legendary Narcissist has been skewed towards handling the after effects of being in a romantic relationship with a Narcissist.  While this is still an important topic to explore, McKenna and I hope to widen the scope of content to help people who are dealing with Narcissistic parents, co-workers, and friends.