With the holiday season comes the traditional holiday movie reruns, like The Wizard of Oz
Each of the main sojourners in this movie have their separate quests. The Straw Man seeks wisdom, the Tin Man wants a heart, the Lion wants Courage and Dorothy wants to go home. At the end of the movie, The Wizard of Oz bequeaths each of them, except Dorothy, with those desired things.
All of the stories that my readers have so generously shared at this site have been heart-wrenching to read. The demonic behavior of Narcissistic people in our lives can shatter every belief we’ve ever had about Love.
Eventually, we all begin to seek answers so we can heal. This is the core of human-ness that causes us to want more than mere survival. Transformation and recovery from a Narcissistic Relationship takes courage … and belief.
In self-dialogue, I frequently hear my questions about what it is that I’m searching for now. It isn’t a person, place or thing. It is this:
The belief in life that I had in youth
The belief that I can make a difference
The belief in happy endings
And there you have it … the quest for a happy ending.
Change is inevitable … Progress is optional.
~Jack Welch
This is a statement not only about business, but also about life’s ups and downs. Wholeheartedly, it is my belief that it isn’t what happens to us that matters most, it is how we respond to things that have happened, especially if the circumstances are qualitatively negative.
As I struggle with my own version of the annual Holiday Blahs, I’m also working out ways to overcome them. It isn’t worth the time wasted to slip into a funk that permeates the atmosphere of joy for the loved ones who now surround me and it’s too much work to fake it.
The only alternative is to change my viewpoint. Even if there were no others for me to affect, switching my focus to a more positive view is essential for me to reassemble my life.
A pearl of wisdom was delivered while watching the thought provoking movie, The Matrix
You must choose between the past that lies before
and the past that lies ahead
It’s that time of year again. We’re supposed to be festive and joyful. Our families and friends bring us close and we’re all cheery, right?
I recognize that attitude is everything. Every day I have a choice about how I respond to stimuli in my environment. I can choose to meander off into emotional gloom or sunshine . Aside from the holidays, it is very easy to flush my feelings of disappointment down the drain and recenter my inner peace.
It could be the fact that a friend of mine died suddenly just before Thanksgiving. She was younger than me. It could be that her death reminds me of unaccomplished dreams and goals in my life. It could be that I miss my mother … whose death and funeral memories are all tangled up in the final betrayal that I experienced at the hands of a Narcissist.
Although I take full responsibility for every choice that has brought me to the life that I know today, I continue to stumble over the hurdle labeled acceptance. Accepting responsibility for one’s part in a drama is very different than accepting the disappointment that resulted from those decisions.
