Comments on: When Does Joy for Life Return?

By: Irene Madrid

Irene Madrid — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 17:00:30 +0000

I seem to be a world’s record for narcissistic abuse after reading so many blogs on narcissism. My father is an overt narssisit BUT…my ex spouse of ( yes) 42 yrs is a somatic, covert narcissist. He is the worst of the worst. We have a big family business together. I want absolutely no contact with him but I must for my family’s future in the biz. We also have son we support somewhat.

I have very little joy in my life other than my grandchildren. I don’t think about the ex very much except after a business meeting. I have no desire for another partner and yet I have lonely times and idealize what a new, mentally healthy partner would be like.

Anyone with this dilemma? Thank you.

By: baab

baab — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 02:20:02 +0000

i had evil from one of these beings…….we can eventually get away…..they never can…….

By: Maria

Maria — Tue, 08 May 2012 01:48:03 +0000

My Somatic Narcissist has seduced some of my aquaintances in this small city where women outnumber men 5 to 1. It’s deeply humiliating. Three years of constant lies about how much he loved me, what a faithful guy he is, how he’s a one woman man. Those declarations were such a turn off during the first two years that I tried to get away from him twice. Even took nice photos so that he could go onto a dating site (how naive of me he had women on the side from coffee lounge pick-ups and dating sites all along!). He was so upset and deprived like an abandoned child that I couldn’t do it.

In the third year, I fell for him and felt his sexual magnetism. So how did he hook me so that now, 8 weeks after I threw him off I can’t stop thinking about his ways? I tap, hypnotize, cut cords, get healing, write journals…nup, he’s in my mind. He found my weak point and it’s a weakness which turns me on…jealousy. He found my button.

By: Phoenix

Phoenix — Sat, 06 Aug 2011 10:00:13 +0000

Hi Don,

Thank you for your comment but isn’t clear without more details if you asking about self-abuse or if being a product of your environment of abuse has led to your feeling that you are a narcissist?

I am not a psychologist. I have come to understand that anyone who questions whether or not they are narcissistic is probably not a narcissist, however. Narcissists cannot see the bad effect that they have on others because their only motivation is to get what they want.

By: Don

Don — Sat, 06 Aug 2011 00:17:54 +0000

I started to research my own narcissistic ways and as much as i identify with the explanation of the behavior, i seem to be identifying even more with the stories of abuse. Is it possible to actually be abused by my narcissistic way?