Who is McKenna?

My dear friend, McKenna, has agreed to become a guest blogger and co-administrator at The Legendary Narcissist.  I'm truly excited about this!  She helped me navigate through the devastating experience of dealing with a narcissistic relationship and, although she never told me what to do, she guided me to the right decisions.  McKenna is an [...]

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Belief

We are all questing for answers to the questions that were raised about life, love, and ourselves. And discovering the answers is a process that is different for us all. But I feel that when you are clear about what these things mean to you, your heart will open again and your life will flourish again. And, while you are sifting through the sands of your darkest memories and deepest disappointments, always remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel, once you Believe in Yourself again.

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Eat, Pray … Love

This is a movie that Julia Roberts starred in.  Although she excels in roles like this and I truly admire her skills as a performer, I didn’t rush to the movies to see it.  I guess I've become weary of the formulaic predictability of most romantic comedies.  As some of us know, real life is [...]

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Nostalgia

A friend of mine sent me a link to a YouTube video from a show that he watches called Mad Men.  It was a clip from an episode called The Wheel and it was quite touching.  Here is the meat of the quote that I found online: Nostalgia - it's delicate, but potent. Teddy told [...]

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Getting Your Narcisstic Ex Out of Your Mind

when you find yourself pining for your Narcissistic Ex, follow that feeling through. Examine all of the experiences, good or bad, and follow that train of thought right up to the point where the only choice was to leave the relationship. During that stroll down memory lane, you’ll be refreshing memories that both attract and repel you. If you are completely honest with yourself after replaying your mental tapes, you will once again conclude that you’ve made the right decision to leave.

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Validation

Our smiles make a difference for others, and smiling makes us feel better inside too.

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Good News and Bad News about Grieving

The stages of grief were developed to assist people who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness understand the emotional journey upon which they were about to embark. In spite of the list’s good intentions and seeming accuracy, there is no succinct formula for the grieving process for all human beings are different, and have varying degrees of coping skills and none seem to fully explain the grief cycle that follows years of emotional abuse at the hands of a Narcissist.

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The Question

The other day, my step daughter sent a broadcast poll question out to everyone via text message.  The question she asked was: If you know that a man will never really excite you, should you date him anyway and try to make it work? Not only is that the bazillion dollar question that many of [...]

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Attracted to the Bad Boys?

I’ve developed kind of a habit of listing to National Public Radio on Sundays.   During the course of the day, I overheard an interview with a graduate student that piqued my interest.  Her research revealed that babies as young as 3-months old preferred the toys who had exhibited better character.  Allow me to explain, for [...]

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Are You in Touch with Your Much-ness?

There was an interesting question asked in the new Alice in Wonderland movie.  As the uncertain Alice encountered the Mad Hatter, he was disappointed by her fear and said, “You used to be much more … you’ve lost your much-ness!”  The silly wording of the statement caused a smile but the profundity of the statement [...]

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