Dragon Heart here. This is a post that I wrote in response to a "yahoo answers" Question in 2008. Here is the Answer I wrote which I think still works well today. It also reflects the recovery I was able to gain after 10 years of working at it.
Can Children of Narcissist Parents Ever Recover?
YES, you can recover from NPD Parents!
First of all you need to learn about recovery and what recovery really is.
There is 12 step recovery and then there is therapy and then there is Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT or "Tapping" is a technique to relieve emotional disstress and clear the issues that are stuck), and there is the Recovery Model in the mental health field.