I completely agree. I have made it my business to help people who are in the grips of a Narcissist understand who it is that they are dealing with. They seem to come in all shapes and demeanors.

I only have had the experience that I’ve had. What I learned in that relationship provides me with tools to spot another Narcissist who has entered my life. My flags are yellow, orange and, when the red one flips up, I immediately disconnect. I have definitely learned there is no other solution.

I’ve done a lot of research on this topic, as you might imagine. I’ve spoken with people who have described horrific encounters with their Narcissistic parents. If recovering from a romantic Narcissistic encounter is so arduous, I can’t imagine what those who have suffered a relationship with a Narcissistic parent must have to confront.

There is some truth in the fact that we must first take accounting of, and recover, the self-worth that has been diminished. Once that has been accomplished, then we have to teach ourselves to love ourselves again … and first.

Only after these two steps are complete are we immune from any Narcissistic onslaught. As I said, I’m still in recovery, although I certainly can see how far I’ve come. My spiritual wounds are much less tender to the touch and I can envision peace in the future place where none of this has potential to affect present time thoughts an interactions.

Thanks for your comments!

Phoenix