When Does Joy for Life Return?

Another year has passed, according to the anniversary of my birth.  As I assess my life’s condition, I can’t help measuring what is as it relates to what was. “The past is our definition. we may strive, with good reason, to escape it, or to escape what is bad in it, but we will escape [...]

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Pearls of Wiz-dom

The Wizard of Oz has its charm and some good messages that we should take to heart. Dorothy’s revelation that she needs to look no further than her own back yard for her heart’s desire is, perhaps, another way of saying that happiness can only be found within ourselves.

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Reassembling Life After a Narcissistic Relationship

Change is inevitable ... Progress is optional. ~Jack Welch This is a statement not only about business, but also about life's ups and downs. Wholeheartedly, it is my belief that it isn't what happens to us that matters most, it is how we respond to things that have happened, especially if the circumstances are qualitatively [...]

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Eat, Pray … Love

This is a movie that Julia Roberts starred in.  Although she excels in roles like this and I truly admire her skills as a performer, I didn’t rush to the movies to see it.  I guess I've become weary of the formulaic predictability of most romantic comedies.  As some of us know, real life is [...]

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Nostalgia

A friend of mine sent me a link to a YouTube video from a show that he watches called Mad Men.  It was a clip from an episode called The Wheel and it was quite touching.  Here is the meat of the quote that I found online: Nostalgia - it's delicate, but potent. Teddy told [...]

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Our Experiences Define Us

They lyrics to this song speak to how events and experiences in our lives shape who we become.

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Turning Points in Relationships

The warmth in the air mirrors the glow in you are feeling inside, until the NPD casually use a confidence you’ve shared with them in jest. It’s a turning point you will only recognize as a Narcissistic attack after the relationship has ended.

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Getting Your Narcisstic Ex Out of Your Mind

when you find yourself pining for your Narcissistic Ex, follow that feeling through. Examine all of the experiences, good or bad, and follow that train of thought right up to the point where the only choice was to leave the relationship. During that stroll down memory lane, you’ll be refreshing memories that both attract and repel you. If you are completely honest with yourself after replaying your mental tapes, you will once again conclude that you’ve made the right decision to leave.

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Taking Control and Making Changes

Music is good therapy for someone who is in recovery from a Narcissistic relationship.  In the song Idaho, Nerina Pallot describes a flight from what was, as an empowered person who is taking control of their life

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Holiday Blahs

The Holiday blahs have certainly affected me today.  There was a season when hope was still in my vocabulary and all things seemed possible.  At the time, I had no idea it was a false promise from a Narcissist. Love is what we are told we need.  Attachment is the downfall of loving, I guess.  [...]

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