Belief

We are all questing for answers to the questions that were raised about life, love, and ourselves. And discovering the answers is a process that is different for us all. But I feel that when you are clear about what these things mean to you, your heart will open again and your life will flourish again. And, while you are sifting through the sands of your darkest memories and deepest disappointments, always remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel, once you Believe in Yourself again.

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Reassembling Life After a Narcissistic Relationship

Change is inevitable ... Progress is optional. ~Jack Welch This is a statement not only about business, but also about life's ups and downs. Wholeheartedly, it is my belief that it isn't what happens to us that matters most, it is how we respond to things that have happened, especially if the circumstances are qualitatively [...]

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Living Through the Holidays

Although I take full responsibility for every choice and decision that has brought me to the life that I know today, I continue to stumble over the hurdle labeled acceptance. Accepting responsibility for one’s actions and choices is very different than accepting the disappointments that resulted from the actions and choices.

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Rules of The Game

If you are in First Place on a Narcissist’s roster, remember that your position will never be above the Narcissist. Additionally, being described as the most esteemed person on a Narcissist’s list also puts you on the firing range as the most ideal target when you make the grave mistake of letting them know you disapprove of their behavior.

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Good News and Bad News about Grieving

The stages of grief were developed to assist people who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness understand the emotional journey upon which they were about to embark. In spite of the list’s good intentions and seeming accuracy, there is no succinct formula for the grieving process for all human beings are different, and have varying degrees of coping skills and none seem to fully explain the grief cycle that follows years of emotional abuse at the hands of a Narcissist.

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Lessons Learned

Time may or may not heal all wounds but I honestly can't describe my present frame of mind any better than this awesome song by Carrie Underwood. If you'd like to pick up some of her heart-felt and beautiful music at Amazon, check out this link. Incoming search terms:my experience with a narcissistthe mad hatter was [...]

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Lumberjack Day Parades

Days of festivals and parades are supposed to be fun.  Like my cat, who is disturbed by the noise, I stay in a back part of the house so as to be less affected by Lumberjack Days.   As I worked in my office, it occurred to me that there was only one "kind of" [...]

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What Is Success?

In a recent discussion, a friend of mine opined about my Narcissist. I heard myself saying that, if he was such a loser, why did his life appear to be going along so much better than mine. And, since saying that, I’ve heard a similar thought from another soul who reads my blog. They opined [...]

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Soul Crushing Effects

One of my subscribers has been in correspondence with me over the past several days. As I’ve read these notes, I’ve been reminded of how much havoc can be wreaked by a Narcissist. During one of the notes, they described a feeling of having a crushed soul. For my subscribers, and especially for the subscriber [...]

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Public Places, Familiar Faces

This past week, Nobel Ceremonies were held. Since my former beau’s father was not able to endure grueling international travel due to his fragile health, a special ceremony was conducted for him here. I wasn’t invited, of course, but my affection for this old man caused me to watch a streaming broadcast of the event. [...]

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