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A friend of mine sent me a link to a YouTube video from a show that he watches called Mad Men. It was a clip from an episode called The Wheel and it was quite touching. Here is the meat of the quote that I found online:
Nostalgia - it's delicate, but potent. Teddy told me that in Greek, "nostalgia" literally means "the pain from an old wound." It's a twinge in your heart far more powerful than memory alone. This device isn't a spaceship, it's a time machine. It goes backwards, and forwards... it takes us to a place where we ache to go again. It's not called the wheel, it's called the carousel. It let's us travel the way a child travels - around and around, and back home again, to a place where we know are loved.
Considering our memories as sort of a time machine, is completely apropos. When we are reflecting on our pasts, we are catapulted into it. Sometimes it is the way a sunbeam crosses the trees or a song, maybe even a smell, that stimulates memories. Once they are stirred, we have to revisit those experiences whether they are delightful or painful to recall.
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I’m a big fan of Garrison Keillor’s Prairie Home Companion show. There is a segment of each broadcast entitled News from Lake Wobegon, wherein Garrison pokes fun at Minnesota styles and behaviors. Similar to Monty Python’s jesting about the Masons, Lake Wobegon news pokes fun at religious sects.
This week’s program was live from the Minnesota State Fair. This is an annual program that I truly enjoy because it is a great fair and, by reports from folks in other parts of the USA, perhaps one of the largest in the entire country. During the Lake Wobegon portion of the show this week, Garrison Keillor explained the reasons why someone should not hire Lutherans (I’m just paraphrasing and truly do not mean to disrespect to any Lutherans among my readership!) as competition judges at the fair in his segment of the show. He said:
It’s in scripture! The last shall be first, the first shall be last.
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As we learn more about Narcissists and NPD, we sometimes come to realize that the most recent experience we are reeling from is not the ONLY experience we’ve had in our lives. While we can itemize the things to look out for and ways to extricate these emotional vampires from our sphere, it may be equally important to look into our own souls and discover what it is about us that continues to attract these aberrated people. Allow me to share some observations that I’ve made about my style for your self-consideration as you continue on your own journey back to the lightness that once was your life.
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This is a video which I was introduced to about a year ago. It is 16-minutes long but well worth the watch. Not only does it have a good message that we all have special gifts, it is an example of how being attached to a specific outcome can affect us ... and help us to find ourselves anew.
Our smiles make a difference for others, and smiling makes us feel better inside too. Enjoy the film and let me know what you think.
There was an interesting question asked in the new Alice in Wonderland movie. As the uncertain Alice encountered the Mad Hatter, he was disappointed by her fear and said, “You used to be much more … you’ve lost your much-ness!” The silly wording of the statement caused a smile but the profundity of the statement wasn’t lost on me.
Many of my readers talk of their own disbelief with themselves. Every time I read a comment like that, it breaks my heart again. There is not an adequate explanation for the things we have chosen to change about ourselves in order to maintain a relationship with a Narcissist and no way to describe the after effects to people who haven’t dealt with an NPD. As many of us have learned through experience, the relationship we thought was love was not what it seemed.
Time may or may not heal all wounds but I honestly can't describe my present frame of mind any better than this awesome song by Carrie Underwood.
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