There was an interesting question asked in the new Alice in Wonderland movie. As the uncertain Alice encountered the Mad Hatter, he was disappointed by her fear and said, “You used to be much more … you’ve lost your much-ness!” The silly wording of the statement caused a smile but the profundity of the statement wasn’t lost on me.
Many of my readers talk of their own disbelief with themselves. Every time I read a comment like that, it breaks my heart again. There is not an adequate explanation for the things we have chosen to change about ourselves in order to maintain a relationship with a Narcissist and no way to describe the after effects to people who haven’t dealt with an NPD. As many of us have learned through experience, the relationship we thought was love was not what it seemed.